I'm a self-proclaimed love addict and retired serial dater at the spritely age of thirty-four. I love pizza, riding my bike, and I live by the motto
"a day not laughed is a day not lived".
Sounds a bit like a Tinder profile, doesn't it? Well, that's why I wrote this book.
Reigning from the Emerald Isle, I arrived in Berlin in 2015 bright-eyed and bushy-tailed, excited for a new adventure... and what an experience I have had. Although now, my tail is a lot more whispy, and the twinkle in my eyes has faded from the exhaustion of trying to find a decent man. I naively expected that finding a healthy relationship would be easier than learning german... how very wrong I was.
Modern dating is a tragedy and I'm tired and frustrated with the disposable dating culture that has been borne out of dating apps. With the over-availability of sex, people (mostly men in my experience) have a hard time settling for one person. Apps are a breeding ground for the emotionally unavailable because now that sex is easier to get, love is harder to find. It's easier to run away from the responsibility of a relationship and instead have a short-term love affair. You're only ever a swipe away from your next situationship... and it feels like a never-ending cycle.
Not long after moving here, I found myself trapped in an emotionally abusive relationship which was my unfortunate introduction to this city. Since then, although I have recovered and grown from the trauma, I'm still coming across so many emotional manipulators, cheaters, and love bombers...the dishonesty seems to be never-ending.
But I know I'm not alone, all my friends and their friends have the same problems. So I wrote the book on my experiences to help others, because pain is growth, and as we all know, a problem shared is a problem halved.